when instead of the one baby you thought you were having, you find out you’re having two?
I can’t answer for you or anyone else, I’m sure the range of emotions is wide and deep on this one, but I can answer for myself because this is exactly what happened to my husband and I at our ultrasound appointment this past Thursday.
My first thought was that it explained a lot. Like why I’ve been showing so much more than I did with my first and why I’ve been so much sicker this time around. Then I sort of floated in some strange space where nothing matters until we got to the car. That’s when the tears started. I hadn’t planned on having three children. We were going to stop at two. One for each hand has always been what I thought I could handle best. How can I hold two newborns, feed two newborns, and still keep up with my sweet, wild Sunshine who will be about three when they arrive?
*A quick note for anyone who’s thinking I’m unhappy about twins; that simply isn’t true. These babies are mine and I already love them fiercely. This is not a story about wishing children away. This is a story about changing expectations, shifting realities, and how life has a funny way of keeping us on our toes.*
While still sobbing and imagining a terrible six months where I never left my house and my poor toddler was stuck inside being miserable with me, I went to Google on my phone and typed “twin baby gear” in the search field.
Now, this might shock you as much as it shocked me, but apparently people have been having twins/multiples for literally thousands of years and ummmm, they’ve actually already come up with some pretty great ways to cope with the additional workload. ; )
I mopped up my eyes, blew my nose into a napkin from the glove box, and started telling Carl about everything I was finding. Turns out, this is going to be really hard, but people do it all the time and we’re going to be just fine. Not to mention, the minute we broke the news to our families, offers of help in all forms and fashions came pouring in which has done wonders for a good portion of my anxiety.
That was a few days ago and the news has continued to sink in slowly but steadily. I can already feel them move and watching them move together on the ultrasound screen was absolutely surreal. I’m going to be a mother to three beautiful children and I’m going to give it everything I’ve got. Part of which, means taking care of myself.
Like right now for instance, while the love of my life takes our sweet Sunshine to run errands at Lowe’s and the Co-op. The minute the door closed behind them, I flipped on my new diffuser, cut the elastic waistband out of my pajama pants, and mixed up and applied my clay mask. There’s going to be lots of time to plan, and worry, and read, and worry, for now I think I’ll go have a bath. : )